You Are Not the Boss of Me
Why The Great Resignation is Bad News for Jerk Bosses
“You are not the boss of me!” A comic refrain most often heard from the lips of defiant children, these words also have surprising and frightening relevance in today’s almost-post-pandemic workplace. In fact, they could well be the battle cry of the new activism we’re seeing on the part of today’s employees. I’m convinced that these seven words capture one of the most unanticipated and contagious sentiments to come out of the workforce in many years. More important, I’m looking forward to the potentially deleterious effect they will have on that small but smug category of managers known as “jerk bosses.”
I first wrote about jerk bosses 20 years ago after reading multiple exit interviews from employees who had recently left their jobs. I then followed up with them and asked, “What did you NOT say in that exit interview?” The most frequent answer? “My boss was a jerk.”
Years later, I reflected on those conversations and realized that I had failed to ask a critical follow-on question: “Why did you put up with it?” I didn’t ask because I already knew the answer.
Why Don’t Employees Speak Up?
The answer is “fear.” To paraphrase revered management consultant Peter Drucker, “Fright eats fight for breakfast.” And fright is nothing new in the workplace. Long before The Great Depression, the prevailing driver of an employee’s attitude, mindset and decision making was a condition psychologists labeled “ergophobia.”
Defined as the persistent fear of job loss, this phenomenon, which I prefer to call “job insecurity,” has been keeping employees from speaking up since before Cinderella cowered at her stepmother’s feet. And while the sad reality is that employees have long feared losing their jobs, the striking irony is that, like Cinderella, many have feared losing jobs they actually hate! Jobs that provided just enough financial security, identity and social interaction to keep them pacified if not satisfied, encaged but not engaged – sometimes with disastrous consequences.
The Sound of Silence
The most obvious consequence of ergophobia is silence. Even employees who think they have something important to say, will choose silence if they do not feel psychologically safe.
In a March 2021 Queen’s Gazette article, “Why Employees Hesitate to Speak Up at Work – And How to Encourage Them,” Kyle Brykman, University of Windsor, and Jana Raver, E. Marie Shantz Professor of Organizational Behaviour, Queen's University warn that “… silence is at the root of many well-known organizational disasters.” They point to the example of Canada’s Phoenix pay system fiasco, which cost the government $1.5 billion and was in part attributed to a culture in which “Employees who sounded alarms were told they weren’t being team players.”
Another example is the DecisionWise Benchmark Study showing that 34% of the 100,000 US employees surveyed “do not speak up because of fear of retribution.” It further concluded that “Every day, employees make decisions about whether to speak up or remain silent” and “….the majority choose the safety of silence.”
In short, too many employees have stayed for too long in jobs that have not met their basic need for “psychological safety.” Dr. Amy Edmondson, Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management at the Harvard Business School describes psychological safety as “people’s perceptions of the consequences of taking interpersonal risks in a particular context such as a workplace.” More simply stated, a psychologically safe workplace, is one where people trust that they can speak out safely without fear of ridicule, retribution or re-assignment.
We all know that people are at their best in a fear-free environment. As Bertrand Russell pointed out, “Neither a man nor a crowd nor a nation can be trusted to act humanely or to think sanely under the influence of a great fear.” In the workplace, this condition has not just kept “whistle blowers” in check, but has historically kept average employees from asking questions, raising issues, speaking truth to power and/or expressing objections. Until now.
From Suck Up to Speak Up
The pandemic has caused a “climate change” in the workforce not unlike the global shift in temperature and weather our earth has been undergoing for years. Employees have always put up with inconveniences and even indignities in the workplace. Grueling commutes, long working hours and even expletive-laden rants have been tolerated as “par for the course.” But over time, employee discontent has become trapped in the workplace atmosphere, causing a rise in temperatures, longer and more extreme talent droughts and more severe HRR storms. Plus, much like the situation with global climate change, the “victims” have been better at adaptation than at mitigation.
Since the pandemic, however, remote work and ensuing self-management have diminished the perceived need for and relevance of authoritarian bosses – even of bosses generally. In fact, according to a report by Redwood City, CA-based employment screening services provider GoodHire, “83% of respondents felt they could do their job without any managers.” Further complicating this “climate change” is the fact that honest assessments of companies and their management practices are available to any job seeker with a phone or i-PAD. As a result, workers are more aware, more discriminating and braver. In fact, as recently as January 2022 The New York Times reported that, “…more workers are feeling empowered to call out their managers.”
So, if the fear of management is waning and fear of job loss is no longer the influential force it used to be, what will that mean for jerk bosses who are accustomed to using these fears to sidestep responsibility for and repercussions of their less than stellar management behaviors? In other words, what will happen to jerk bosses who are forced to function in a psychologically safe workplace?
Workforce vs. Jerkforce
We know that employees who are not fearful and feel psychologically safe are more inclined to take interpersonal risks, such as speaking up and engaging in what Edmondson calls “voice behavior.” When unhappy at work, they voice their concerns openly and honestly, engage with their support networks and explore other opportunities within their current company before leaving the organization. Employees in a psychologically safe workplace are more likely to question, confront and complain about jerk managers like those I describe in Love ‘Em or Lose ‘Em -- managers who shout, humiliate, discriminate, fail to listen, betray trust and restrict or stifle employee input. And while I do believe that calling bad managers out will greatly facilitate weeding them out, I also recognize that questioning, confronting and complaining will not, by themselves, eliminate jerk bosses. However, if forced to function in a truly psychologically safe workplace, jerk bosses will have little choice but to adapt or perish. And, as with global climate change, adaptation will require them to:
Name it: Recognize and acknowledge the change and challenge of the new climate.
Re-frame it: Adjust their view of and attitude about it.
Claim it: Accept and commit to their role in it.
All this involves examining their current behaviors, being willing to ask which of them need to change and investing in new practices more appropriate to the new climate.
While climate change has been partly responsible for the fall of some civilizations – along with overpopulation, epidemics, wars and famines – the recent post-pandemic changes probably won’t signal the end of the workplace as we know it. But hopefully, it will encourage the “jerkforce” to amend its management behaviors -- if for no other reason than self-preservation.